March 13, 2010

Japan:School for Marriage

In search of Mr. or Mrs. Right?

Look no further because we will train you and package you to be marriageable material.

So claims the Infini school  in Tokyo.


Let us read the Reuters Report just posted.

" Now, some dozens of Japanese are attending this newly launched school in Tokyo that aims to turn them marriageable.


The Infini school offers various classes for wannabe brides and grooms at a time when many people in Japan are either shunning the institution of marriage or are finding it very difficult to hook up with a partner.

The school, which is open to men and women, teaches students how to talk, walk and present themselves elegantly in a bid to capture the hearts and minds of prospective partners and their parents, who are often a major obstacle to successful unions.

Infini, which opened last month, now has about 30 female students. An almost equal number of males have signed up, but those who actually turn up to class are much fewer than their female counterparts.

“I had never even thought that my boyfriend’s mother could play such a big role in my relationship, but now I’ve realised I need to start thinking seriously about how to impress my future in-laws,” said Kozue Sugawara, 29, who joined the school after her previous marriage plans failed.

With women wielding increased economic clout and changing social attitudes toward marriage, more Japanese in their 20s and 30s are single than ever before.

Government statistics show nearly two-thirds of women under the age of 34 are unmarried, despite some 3,800 firms in Japan offering match-making services.

The average age of the school’s female students is 30 years.

“Before, people would find it easy to get married because families and society would connect them in some way, sometimes pushing them to get married. But nowadays, people have too many choices and cannot seem to make up their minds,” said Etsuko Satake, principal of the Infini marriage prep school.

Instructors provide critiques about students’ dress, posture and even details such as how they cross their legs or get out of a car. Men and women are taught different skills, which range from how to set a table well to how to be more emotionally expressive.

Students also simulate dates, during which their instructors grade their performance and point out what they did wrong.

The school charges an annual fee of ¥200,000 (RM7,528) for unlimited access to its classes.

And some students, such as 32-year-old Mei Oda, seem to think it’s an investment worth making.

“I’m looking for a man who makes more than ¥10 million a year, doesn’t ask me to live with his parents and takes good care of me,” said Oda, a contract office worker.

Experts say that with Japan’s economy plunged deep into recession, many women are taking a renewed interest in marriage and the economic stability it could provide, and are actively seeking a partner through “konkatsu” or spouse-hunting activities. "

Well, to some extent, Singapore has been quite successful in matchmaking. The Malaysia MCA initiative started well but today no one actually hear of this anymore because of the MCA do or die battle at its highest echelons.

My Take:

What is happening in Japan for its educated unmarried career ladies have happened in Singapore. It will also happen in Malaysia.

With modernisation,marriage services though perceived as 'unsavoury' and 'undignified' to high flying career women,sadly it may be just the thing for them. There is a lot of 'saliva swallowing' to be done when they drop their sights to more lowly qualified persons to marry.If they do not, they will be left unmarried till 'infinity'.

I believe it will criss-cross ethnic boundaries.

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