April 06, 2017
New Years Eve 2017
It was a rare occasion to have the Reunion Dinner with my Mother and James family.
We had a great time at Pantai Seafood Restaurant.
Food could have been better.
In the pic is Mother-seated.
Left to right - Jemsen, James, Iriene, Juliana and yours truly.
August 26, 2016
Leaving:The Mother and Son Relationship
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| Leaving for the Greater Good |
Let us delve into the relationship of Aloo, the protagonist and his mother, the antagonist.
Aloo’s doting mother is the antagonist. Widowed at thirty-three, she has 5 children. A strong
woman, she did not marry, committing to raise all five children on her own. She
was practical and focused. She sold her shop after her elder two daughters
married and then moved to quiet Upanga to take care of the youngest two children
and their education. As her elder son, Firoz, was a school dropout who worked
and lived on his own, her hopes and future were clearly pinned high on the
narrator and Aloo.
Her
younger son, Aloo is the protagonist. He is intelligent, bright and ambitious. He
is obedient and respectful of his mother.
Then
came the main event to bring conflict between mother and son.
Inspired
by Mr. Datoo, a former teacher returning from America, Aloo made a decision to study
in America. Armed with initiative and resourcefulness, he wrote to many
universities in America to seek a place to study. When Aloo was given a place to study medicine
at the famed California Institute of Technology with a scholarship thrown in,
Aloo was ecstatic! The door to opportunity and many related possibilities opened
before his eyes.
While
mother-son relationship was on an even keel of respect, responsibility and duty
until now, the university offer and scholarship issue started to cause a schism
to appear between mother and son. Their relationship was now put to a test.
Will it bend or will it break or will the test strengthen their relationship
further?
Both
had their points of view on this matter. Let’s look at them.
For
Aloo, to study in America, represents a vision of his tomorrow, the fruition of
a longing hope. America was a brand new world out there for his taking. It will
provide him with a golden opportunity to not only study at a renowned
university but also in his desired course-medicine. On top of that he was
awarded a scholarship! Certainly, not that Agriculture offered by a local
university which he looked upon with so much disdain. He had friends studying
overseas and these peers became his models to look beyond his native shores for
education prospects.
Aloo
was certainly disappointed when his mother did not share his excitement, hopes
and dreams. When his mother brought up the issue of money that was needed to
spend in America that was beyond the remit of the scholarship, he suggested
that they could borrow some or that he could also work to help supplement the shortfall
of the fees and other overheads. This shows his desperation to take advantage
of the opportunity to be something better; to be someone better.
For
his mother, Aloo’s opportunity to study overseas certainly forced her to think
long and hard. She realized she had many misgivings. Although she may not have
to spend too much money to enable Aloo to go to America, she bore some unspoken
fears; utmost being, that she may lose her son forever to a foreign land if he
did not return. She also found out that she was conservative as she harbour a
fear that Aloo might take a foreign wife. Similarly, she was also concerned
that Aloo, being on his own, may fell victim to bad habits such as smoking and
drinking.
Though,
having mixed feelings as an overprotective mother who may be about to lose one
of her son, albeit briefly, she was not blatantly against Aloo and his ambition
to study overseas. We can perceive this as she never did raise any objection
when Aloo started corresponding with foreign universities to obtain
prospectuses and entry forms. We know she was a responsible mother who cares
for the future of her children. As such, she was not insensitive to Aloo’s
needs. In fact, she was sensible. She was aware of his ambitions and his
dreams.
She
had made sacrifices before, why not one more? Though careful, she sought
assurance. So, she went to see Mr. Velji, a learned education officer whom she respected.
They discussed on the matter at hand-Aloo’s scholastic performance, the course
in medicine and the scholarship. When
the advice given was supportive that Aloo go to America to study; the mother,
despite being conflicted by the sense of potential separation and loneliness,
accepted the advice as profitable and was willing to forego her selfish fears such
as loneliness, cultural issues and possibly, religious apprehensions.
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English Literature
August 16, 2016
Honesty and Honour
This afternoon, I would just like to talk about two aspects-honesty and honour.
While other values are deem possibly in the same realm, I thought focusing on just this two values could unfold untold riches for daily living and for a whole life-time.
Lets look at the four aspects mentioned in this colourful plaque.
All this brings us to the embracing concept of honour. It is a manifestation of your true worth.
In one bold word, 'honour' exemplifies a person that is peerless - a living model of leadership, of stewardship able to guide others in both good times and bad times.
'Honour' is bestowed upon a person of all seasons because of his moral fibre and the core values he espoused.
He is the paragon of the truth and a leader of all things wise and wonderful.
A honorable person is one close to your heart and one that walks with God.
While other values are deem possibly in the same realm, I thought focusing on just this two values could unfold untold riches for daily living and for a whole life-time.
Lets look at the four aspects mentioned in this colourful plaque.
- Respect is earned.
- Honesty is appreciated
- Trust is gained
- Loyalty is returned.
In my opinion, honesty is a primate value. Trust,respect and loyalty are outcomes of honesty.
Its relationships are pretty obvious.
'Honesty' denotes respect for the person you are addressing; 'Trust' is gained because of a faultless
legacy of speaking the truth; and 'loyalty'-the undying faithfulness of others towards you as a leader of truth and wisdom.All this brings us to the embracing concept of honour. It is a manifestation of your true worth.
In one bold word, 'honour' exemplifies a person that is peerless - a living model of leadership, of stewardship able to guide others in both good times and bad times.
'Honour' is bestowed upon a person of all seasons because of his moral fibre and the core values he espoused.
He is the paragon of the truth and a leader of all things wise and wonderful.
A honorable person is one close to your heart and one that walks with God.
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Values
June 03, 2016
BOMBA! Highly Irresponsible!
Yes, these people have no brains!
BOMBA people - these nuts!
Frightened me out of my wits this morning.
Here, we were happily parked in E-Curve this morning at 9 am.
We had an hour or so to get ready to leave the building as I had to ferry my missus to One Utama to take the Aeroline bus to Penang.
Horrors of horrors!!
All the parking exits where shuttered.
No way out!
Anxiety syndrome sets in.
E-Curve guards were clueless when these nincompoop BOMBA idiots will finish their sudden spot checks!
Coordination among the guards to let us out was almost an exercise in futility!
We had about 25 minute to make for the bus station.
Will the bus leave us? What can we do do then?
Nothing but to pray to God.
Thank God, our prayers were answered.
From the Curve we hit the Bukit Utama route and short cut through Ferringham.
Traffic was good and we arrived at One Utama with about less than 10 minutes to spare.
A day of suspense turned jubilant.
Praise the Lord!
BOMBA people - these nuts!
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| Trouble Makers-Numbskulls? |
Here, we were happily parked in E-Curve this morning at 9 am.
We had an hour or so to get ready to leave the building as I had to ferry my missus to One Utama to take the Aeroline bus to Penang.
Horrors of horrors!!
All the parking exits where shuttered.
No way out!
Anxiety syndrome sets in.
E-Curve guards were clueless when these nincompoop BOMBA idiots will finish their sudden spot checks!
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| Irresponsible Bunglers? |
We had about 25 minute to make for the bus station.
Will the bus leave us? What can we do do then?
Nothing but to pray to God.
Thank God, our prayers were answered.
From the Curve we hit the Bukit Utama route and short cut through Ferringham.
Traffic was good and we arrived at One Utama with about less than 10 minutes to spare.
A day of suspense turned jubilant.
Praise the Lord!
Labels:
Milestones
April 27, 2016
Amy Tan-my Favourite Std 4 teacher
She looks Cantonese. Looks like a movie star of the '60s.
Charming, petite and dresses well.
Do I have a crush on her back then. Possibly.
Looking back, she was the prettiest teacher ever.
Wonder where she is now?
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Teachers
Death in the Family
Hardly 59.
This morning she was gone even before her son reached the hospital.
Sepsis-the clotting of the blood that restrict blood flows to all limbs and organs and then death.
She was my sister, Shaline and she left us in the wee hours of the morning on 27 April 2016.
She was my flesh and blood.
I lost Donny in 1988.
Some 27 years later, I lost Shaline.
Reflections of Shaline.
Mild-mannered and sometimes very simplistic in thought.
Procedural and generous to a fault.
My sister, Shaline.
Tomorrow will be her wake at Guanyin in Kampung Tunku.
On 29 April, there would be her last rites and thence, cremation.
On balance, though her life was full of challenges, Shaline never buckles.
She is my dear, dear sister. Always, will be; even though she is now with God, the Almighty.
I pray that God will bless her soul and put her on the right hand side, where his favourites sit.
Amen.
This morning she was gone even before her son reached the hospital.
Sepsis-the clotting of the blood that restrict blood flows to all limbs and organs and then death.
She was my sister, Shaline and she left us in the wee hours of the morning on 27 April 2016.
She was my flesh and blood.
I lost Donny in 1988.
Some 27 years later, I lost Shaline.
Reflections of Shaline.
Mild-mannered and sometimes very simplistic in thought.
Procedural and generous to a fault.
My sister, Shaline.
Tomorrow will be her wake at Guanyin in Kampung Tunku.
On 29 April, there would be her last rites and thence, cremation.
On balance, though her life was full of challenges, Shaline never buckles.
She is my dear, dear sister. Always, will be; even though she is now with God, the Almighty.
I pray that God will bless her soul and put her on the right hand side, where his favourites sit.
Amen.
Labels:
Milestones
April 24, 2016
Accident in Section 17
Yes, when it was least expected, it occurred.
I was on the left hand side of the service road driving merrily after some shopping in DIY at PJ One.
Suddenly out of the darkness from a lane between two blocks spurted out an old blue Kancil.
It hit me on my right fender and wheel compartment.
At first, I could not open the front driver's door but after nudging it, gradually it opened agonizingly to let me out of the car.
A tall elderly Tuan Haji came out of the small vehicle.
He claimed that he was already on the road when I hit him instead.
His damages...not too sure but his bumper got a bit dislodged and there were two small marks on the front fender near the lights.
He simply refused to give me any details such as name, driving licence and insurance.
"Go and report to the police, " he pointedly said to me.
So, I spent 90 minutes at the Traffic Police Station in Section 8, PJ.
Got home at 11.45 pm.
I do not know what is the 'siasatan' going to be.
Whoever is found wrong pays RM 300 and may lose some demerit points.
Right now, the "other guy" has not reported the accident to the police.
Sargent Nur told me to wait 24 hours. If no report has been made, then onward action will be taken to track down the perpetrator.
If he is found to be in the wrong, then I could make a claim against his insurance.
Found out the car is registered in his daughter's name. Address: Klang.
The car insurance is with AXA Affin.
The Sargent told me that 'give or take', the investigations on this accident will take some 14 days and some.
So, meanwhile, as my car is still roadworthy, I will live with the additional damage to the fender to display the 'wounds of war' driving in a war zone that is Petaling Jaya!
I was on the left hand side of the service road driving merrily after some shopping in DIY at PJ One.
Suddenly out of the darkness from a lane between two blocks spurted out an old blue Kancil.
It hit me on my right fender and wheel compartment.
At first, I could not open the front driver's door but after nudging it, gradually it opened agonizingly to let me out of the car.
A tall elderly Tuan Haji came out of the small vehicle.
He claimed that he was already on the road when I hit him instead.
His damages...not too sure but his bumper got a bit dislodged and there were two small marks on the front fender near the lights.
He simply refused to give me any details such as name, driving licence and insurance.
"Go and report to the police, " he pointedly said to me.
So, I spent 90 minutes at the Traffic Police Station in Section 8, PJ.
Got home at 11.45 pm.
I do not know what is the 'siasatan' going to be.
Whoever is found wrong pays RM 300 and may lose some demerit points.
Right now, the "other guy" has not reported the accident to the police.
Sargent Nur told me to wait 24 hours. If no report has been made, then onward action will be taken to track down the perpetrator.
If he is found to be in the wrong, then I could make a claim against his insurance.
Found out the car is registered in his daughter's name. Address: Klang.
The car insurance is with AXA Affin.
The Sargent told me that 'give or take', the investigations on this accident will take some 14 days and some.
So, meanwhile, as my car is still roadworthy, I will live with the additional damage to the fender to display the 'wounds of war' driving in a war zone that is Petaling Jaya!
Labels:
Motorcar Accident
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